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“The goodness we see in others is a testament to God’s glory, not an overshadowing of ours.” – Seeking You
As I wrote in my About page, the purpose of this blog is to create a community where women of all ages with varying experiences can form connections that encourage, inspire, and educate. I would be remiss, if I didn’t address topics that cause riffs in many relationships. Jealousy and envy abides near the top.
I remember a period in my life, when I viewed most women as competition. Jealousy and envy made their way into my heart and set up camp! For some reason, I felt elated when I was the best dressed, smartest, or the most well-spoken in the room. I felt that acknowledging someone else’s beauty, talent, or kindness, would cast a shadow on mine.
Thankfully, God convicted me of this behavior. He is not done with me yet. I still have a lot more to improve in this area. I am much better person as a result. I now realize that the goodness we see in others is a testament to God’s glory, not an overshadowing of ours.
Throughout my life, I came across many women who had this complex at varying degrees. I experienced what it felt like to have women treat me unfairly, out of jealously and envy. It was not easy. Some felt threatened by me and they were determined to make me pay (at least it felt that way).
Looking back, I can see how we both missed out on the benefits a healthy relationship might have offered us. Jealously and envy, benefits no one. It hurts the victim and the victimizer!
James 3:14-15 States: But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth. This is not the wisdom that comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic.
In James 3:16, it states: For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice.
It’s interesting that the bible calls this behavior demonic and unwise. It goes on to say it causes disorder. Practically speaking, we can see how this is so. If I’m jealous of a fellow sister because of her beauty, brains, or behavior- how am I to speak truth into her life or encourage her. I may be too busy hoping for her demise.
It is imperative that we search within ourselves. If insecurities prevent us from being the true person God intended us to be, we must deal with it. Living a life that allows you to walk up to another woman and compliment her on her beauty or encourage her on her journey is quite beautiful! Speaking positivity and words of encouragement benefits us as well!
We must earnestly seek the help of our heavenly father. Ask God to lead you in this battle against jealousy and envy. Then we must go out and put it into practice. Your kind words, may be exactly what that person needs to hear. When we encounter someone with admirable characteristics, let them know and experience the freedom!
Do you have any experiences with Jealousy and envy, if so Let me hear it! Feel free to leave a comments or any advice below.
I remember being so insecure as a child that I craved praise and compliments more than food. Because of that, I was jealous of anyone that came into “my space.” I didn’t have any idea that my desire to be “better” was borne out of insecurity. While I am in a very different place today, I still have to have an internal dialogue to fight that insecure monster!
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We are a work in progress. We struggle at all times, to do what we know we ought to do, think, and feel. I find that the more I make express positive feelings toward others, the more positive I feel myself. I know it’s not always that simple- though.
And you’re right- insecurity is the root cause! Thank goodness, you are working through those feelings and are willing to share! I am sure someone else will benefit from your honesty. Thanks for that comment.
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I love this post! A good, informative read!
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Thank you very much Naomi (btw, I love your name). I’m glad you found it informative!
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Thanks so much!!!
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“The goodness we see in others is a testament to God’s glory, not an overshadowing of ours.” – Seeking You. I love this quote and keeping ut..thank you!! Lol
I have come a long way in seeking validation from people . I allowed people’s words to have power over me. I grew up in an environment where I had an uncle who would critique my brother and I, and would also compare us to his children. It is now that I recognize that it was his own insecurities and jealousy he projected upon us. I’ve learned to forgive him and did not allow him to speak into my life God had control of that. I will be lying if I said it didn’t affect me in a way, but I’ve turned that experience into choosing to be a positive. Encouraging, optimistic individual. I will choose to speak life into myself, friends and family.. .
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Wow! I love it. We must take some ownership and authority in how we chose to see ourselves and how we handle Opinion of others. I am so proud of you for doing exactly that. Anytime you want to share with the community, let me know. May your Benefit others.
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